|
|
Joined: Jun 2000
Posts: 1,710
Hard-core CEG\'er
|
Hard-core CEG\'er
Joined: Jun 2000
Posts: 1,710 |
Originally posted by infuryum:
Don't follow that logic anymore. Hit the reply button of the person you're talking to or people will get confused.
No thanks. Hey you jacked the thread, not me. I was talking to the original poster! 
- Tim
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: May 2002
Posts: 3,345
Hard-core CEG'er
|
|
Hard-core CEG'er
Joined: May 2002
Posts: 3,345 |
I don't understand...  
1996 MM
Zetec, ATX
192000 kms...not dead, but I'm not fixing it
White people love Wayne Brady because he makes Bryant Gumbel look like Malcolm X.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jun 2000
Posts: 1,710
Hard-core CEG\'er
|
|
Hard-core CEG\'er
Joined: Jun 2000
Posts: 1,710 |
Originally posted by sigma:
Originally posted by Corbett:
Originally posted by infuryum:
You don't read very well. I'm not getting married.
I wasnt talking to you, I was talking to caltour. You dont comprehend well.
Your post was in direct reply to infuryum. He comprehended perfectly well.
Wien-Sean understood me, thanks.
- Tim
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2003
Posts: 2,676
Hard-core CEG\'er
|
|
Hard-core CEG\'er
Joined: Mar 2003
Posts: 2,676 |
Ok where are the "stay with your wife" fortune cookies?
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Aug 2003
Posts: 4,140
Hard-core CEG\'er
|
|
Hard-core CEG\'er
Joined: Aug 2003
Posts: 4,140 |
Originally posted by caltour:
I've been married for almost ten years now. I love my wife. She is truly a wonderful woman and I am lucky as hell to be married to her.
How far can you go and not be cheating?
Get the [censored] out of there. Do whatever you need to do to stop what's happening, because it's just not good. No matter if you think you could be a good guy and get to know her, or whatever, just run. You're a male homo sapien. You have a good chance of falling either emotionally or physically for this woman, when you are committed already. she may be interesting, but it's probably mostly because she's new and forbidden and different and exciting. Remember the first days with your wife, and how things were then, because it was new. You got into this for a reason: you thought it was the best thing for you, and for her. Don't second guess yourself.
I know what you're saying, "I said, no boniking...". Well, I realize this. I'm not doubting your resolution in that area. But monogamy is about more than that, so it's best to keep it way on this side of the fence. You know that if you go over by the fence, you are going to want to look over it, and then sit on it, maybe lean over a little, and the next thing you know, you're as far on the other side as you can be, but leaning back with one finger still touching the fence. It's not black and white, so don't mess with that big grey area. You are already pushing it putting those two sentences together, up there.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: May 2000
Posts: 1,467
Hard-core CEG\'er
|
|
Hard-core CEG\'er
Joined: May 2000
Posts: 1,467 |
Well, well.
In an ideal world you would just walk away and go home to your loving wife. In reality we all know that this is not the case. You really need to find out why find the women so interesting and discuss them with your wife. There is not wrong thinking about women. The problem arises when you act on it.
Corbett, I sent you a email about 5 months ago. Where the hell is my reply?
Now I hate America? That is a new one to me.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Aug 2002
Posts: 8,281
Captain Impound Boy
|
|
Captain Impound Boy
Joined: Aug 2002
Posts: 8,281 |
Originally posted by Antonio Wright:
Corbett, I sent you a email about 5 months ago. Where the hell is my reply?
That is quite the delay! lol
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: May 2000
Posts: 3,335
Hard-core CEG'er
|
|
Hard-core CEG'er
Joined: May 2000
Posts: 3,335 |
Not counting the problems that this woman can possibly create at your home, you can also possibly cause problems at work. I saw just this same thing happen.
Both coworkers of mine, one in a crumbling ten year marriage, and one with a 3+ year girlfriend, whom he has kids with. Everything was going beautifully with the relationship. The woman finally decided it was time to get out of the failing marriage so she could spend more time with the coworker. The divorce and a nasty custody battle started (and are still going).
Well, when the guy told the girlfriend about it she told him that if he wasnt going to be with her, she was going to take the girls and move to Idaho with her parents. The guy cut the work relationship and stayed with his girlfriend and kids.
Now, whenever the girl comes into work (she works a different shift now and we rarely see her) all we (we being the group of us that work nights) hear about is how she loved him so much, and how he was the man of her dreams, and blah, blah, blah.
What if you follow these same steps? You made no mention of children, but what if you destroy your marriage and Mei Ling doesnt want to? Work is going to be awkward, and possibly have problems. All that would have to happen is you put yourself in my female coworkers shoes and she could easily file sexual harrassment charges and you are not out of a marriage and a job.
Its not worth it. Run. Now!
· Jon Miconi
· Coming Soon!
· 01 Cougar
· 98 V70R
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Dec 2002
Posts: 1,506
Hard-core CEG\'er
|
|
Hard-core CEG\'er
Joined: Dec 2002
Posts: 1,506 |
Welcome to the human condition.
Are you happy? Are you satisfied?
If not, why?
If not, what are you gonna do about it?
"What if she's the real one for me?" Wow. That's TOO subjective a question for you to even pose to yourself, it's the perfect rationalization to allow yourself something you'd never rationally allow yourself. There are 125 million females in this country. You're married to one. That was NOT random. To ask if this new one of the other 124,999,999 is really "the one" after all is going about this BACKWARDS. If you have NO interest in punting on your present wife, work on fixing what you have with her BEFORE you see if playing with matches AND gasoline is satisfying. Your question is NOT so far removed from "What if the one for me is a mail order bride from the Ukraine that I've not met yet?" Do you want to start from scratch or not?
Another problem: Humans OFTEN are slow to figure things out and/or to accept them. My first marriage was toast before I fully realized it, and accepting it took still longer. If you ever find yourself sticking around for the sake of the kids, it's already 85% (or more) in the dumpster. This problem of how well we know ourselves, how quickly/clearly we can figure things out, sorting the truth from the illusion, good luck on that part. Again, welcome to the human condition.
AVOID this lady unless you WANT to nuke your marriage.
MSDS, SHO-shop Y, custom 2.5" catback; xcal2; 63mm TB, K&N 3530; Koni struts, Aussie bar; THaines forks, Quaife, SpecII, UR fly; DMD; Nima UD pullies; Stazi brakes; f&r Pole120 mounts. Just a daily commuter car. Silver '98 SVT E0 #3159
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Nov 2000
Posts: 2,625
Hard-core CEG\'er
|
|
Hard-core CEG\'er
Joined: Nov 2000
Posts: 2,625 |
I still think we should see pictures to make an accurate determination.
|
|
|
|
|
