i wouldnt suggest talking to your wife about this. why? cuz she'll say "i cant believe you would even THINK about doing something like that!"
remember, often times, whatever we do is wrong.
ive been in your place more than a few times. its just plain infatuation with something new and different. dont risk your marriage, job, life or something like this.
dont get intimate at all unless youre prepared to go all the way. once you get to that threshhold, you wont be able to hold back and end up going to far anyway. youre seriously playing with fire, even by just going up to that point. just think about this, how would you feel if you were to end up in a divorce in six months? this chinese woman is staying away from you to save her own marriage, and your wife is leaving you. would you feel good about it? relieved to be out of your marriage? probably not. and if not, then dont risk it. as my wife always says "we
always find out"
and you know what, id say 70% of the time they always do.
just enjoy your friendship at work, and leave it at that. maybe go out to dinner with your wife and her husband, so you can all meet, and you can meet him and maybe your mind will be changed.
good luck bro and take it slooow. THINK first.
