Imagine your wife having the same sort of problems. Would you like her to talk it over with you ? What would you think about her ? Chances are, after 10yrs of marriage you two would think along the same lines about this.

I'd say talk to your wife. She knows you better than you think. On the other hand, if you think there are things in your marriage you two shouldn't talk about... well, then your marriage is in trouble and it's time to talk to each other...

Tiv