Originally posted by todras:
Originally posted by BOFH:

Finally, would you get one?





Male equivalent of male menopause? Depression from the fact that you are past your prime? Might as well shoot blanks to keep the possibility of child rearing from coming back? Maybe you'll meet another woman that wants to have a child w/ you. Won't have that option.



I certainly understand the concerns. I really don't want to start over raising a child at 40. I have a daughter who will be 7 this year. I'll be 51 when she turns 18 and in my mid-50's when she is out of college.

So my choice of a mate will include someone who is also not considering having another child.

My first wife came with a child already, and most women I might date have kids right now. (I'm only dating one, so it's not like I'm playing the field.) So I'm all about some light at the end of the tunnel, seeing the kids gone, and spending our 50's taking day trips, three day weekends, maybe a couple of weeks in Europe together, etc.

I know it sounds selfish, but I've lived a good portion of my first 40 years taking care of others. So I just want to enjoy my next partner, or have some reasonable assurance that we won't have close to two decades of child rearing.

But I do want to thank you for thinking of those things. I've thought about this for quite a while now. I'm not trying to change anyones mind, and I don't want mine changed. Just stirring the pot for discussion.

Thanks,

TB

"Seems like our society is more interested in turning each successive generation into cookie-cutter wankers than anything else." -- Jato 8/24/2004