Originally posted by Bullet:
I don't see how him sticking around is going to make everyone uncomfortable. He asked her for an answer and she gave it to him. Same as I did with another girl in the past. But I never once held it against her, even when I heard that she found someone else. I respected her honesty and moved on. I know this is the way life is, but theres right and wrong ways of dealing with things. I'm seaching for the right way.



Do you talk to that girl the same as you did before??

I shouldn't speak in terms of forever, but this is something that's going to be in the back of your friends mind for a while. And it's probably going to hurt him real bad for a while. Especially since she's getting with one of his friends. Rejection effects everyone differently. The "right way" really doesn't have anything to do with you.

We're talking about something he hasn't even done yet though. All i'm saying is if he does do it, don't hold it against him and don't act surprised either. Don't they say if you really love something you should let it go? Of course nobody meant for anyone to get hurt, but it's still pretty much a slap in the face and he's going to need some time to sort stuff out. Everybody handles this kind of thing differently, you can't expect him to get over it just because you did one time.

This is the kinf of thing that ruins friendships. It's just not a good situation to be in. Everyone talks about "bros before hoes," but every once in a while you find that girl to which none of the rules apply. I've been in this situation a few times before. There's a couple of girls I wound up just growing apart from, and some I still talk to occasionally. Girls make guys do some crazy things.

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