Originally posted by TheGreatOne:

Unfortunately, cutting both of them off is the easiest way to deal with it. You don't just stop having feelings for someone, atleast not if those feelings are more than a simple physical attraction.



I know that you can't just stop having feelings for someone. I've been here before, where I told somebody how I felt and they rejected me and didn't feel the same. The same as you can't turn off your feelings for someone, you can't just turn them on either.

Originally posted by TheGreatOne:

Walking away from the whole situation is the respectable thing to do. It will let her be happy and let him find someone else. Out of sight, out of mind. There's no way he's ever going to look at that girl and not think about his feelings for her. I know, i've been through it. What would you have him do? Keep his mouth shut and feel miserable every time he sees the girl from now on??



So if he can't be with this girl, he should just stop being friends with her? How is that better? That would discourage you from ever telling a friend how you feel ever again, because if they reject you, you'll have to walk away from it. Thats not better in my opinion. I've had to deal with girls that I've had feelings for before too, with whom things went south. Yes, I've thought about how I previously felt about them, but I had gotten over it. Sure hes going to be down about it for a while, but to say he will always be miserable doesn't make any sense.

Originally posted by TheGreatOne:

Not being fair to her would be him sticking around and just making everyone uncomfortable.



I don't see how him sticking around is going to make everyone uncomfortable. He asked her for an answer and she gave it to him. Same as I did with another girl in the past. But I never once held it against her, even when I heard that she found someone else. I respected her honesty and moved on. I know this is the way life is, but theres right and wrong ways of dealing with things. I'm seaching for the right way.

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