Originally posted by RT and his SE:
Originally posted by TheGreatOne:

If he does ditch you, it doesn' tmean he's jealous, or a jerk, or selfish, or that he doesn't want her to be happy. That kind of stuff hurts real bad...I can't think of anyone who would just stand around and take it.



Yes it does! If the woman doesn't want you it's your job to get over it, it's your problem. It's your life. You are the one who's responsible for your own happiness not someone else!

Or you could just stalk her until she sees thing your way.




Unfortunately, cutting both of them off is the easiest way to deal with it. You don't just stop having feelings for someone, atleast not if those feelings are more than a simple physical attraction.

Walking away from the whole situation is the respectable thing to do. It will let her be happy and let him find someone else. Out of sight, out of mind. There's no way he's ever going to look at that girl and not think about his feelings for her. I know, i've been through it. What would you have him do? Keep his mouth shut and feel miserable every time he sees the girl from now on??

Originally posted by Bullet:
But he said he was over it is the thing, then a couple of days before me and the girl had our chat that started this, he decides to ask her out again. Thats not very fair to her, especially when she figured that it had been dealt with already. We'll be using discretion when around people that may be bothered by it, so we won't be "rubbing it in his face". But eventually, hes going to have to accept it.

Thanks for all of the advice so far. It means alot to get various opinions on this.




Again, if he had real feelings for her, he's not over it. Most people can't run their hearts on and off like a switch. And just try to imagine what he's feeling like right now. Every time he sees her he probably thinks to himself, "what's wrong with me?" You could say it's jealousy, but it's just the way the mind works. You'd have the same feelings if you were in his situation. Not being fair to her would be him sticking around and just making everyone uncomfortable.

Don't hold it against the kid, this is how life is...

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