So yeah, this is a little bit of a predicament that involves me and 2 of my friends. We'll call him C and call her M. Anyway, a while ago C tells M that he would like to be more than just friends. She tells him straight up that she just doesn't see him that way and would just like to keep him as friends. At the time he told her, she was starting to see someone else, so he just let it go as that. Later on, it turned out that the guy she was seeing was a real jackass so she got rid of him, and she was alot better off for it. So C saw this as an opportunity to bring up that he wanted to be more than friends still, even though he said that he had let it go before. Obviously he hadn't. He thought to himself that since she was seeing somebody else at the time, there wasn't a chance to see if anything could come out of it anyway. So, he asked her out again, and asked her if she would like to give it a go. But even though she wasn't with anybody then, she still didn't see him that way. He told me that he had to do it though, to get some "closure" kinda thing, and I can understand that. You never know until you try right? So anyway, he feels as if she is avoiding him now though, that hes putting more into the friendship that she is, just because they haven't had a chat since he "laid it on the line". But see, she was away from home all week and wouldn't have been able to anyway. But she did email him before she left and emailed him again when she got back, so obviously she wasn't trying to avoid him. But he keps going back to, "well even a 30 sec phone call would have been nice". He keeps putting it off as it being a problem with the friendship, but I think that its mostly to do with the fact that she just doesn't see him like that. And you can't force people to have feelings for you, it don't work that way.
Now this brings us up to my problem...
Over the past while, I have thought about her more and more and have started to view her as more than a friend. And so has she towards me. We got to the point at the same time and we both pretty much knew it was coming sooner or later. So, we're going to start the whole relationship thing in the near future. But you can see the predicament we're into. How is C going to react when he finds this out? Will he be understanding and see that she is happy now, even though its not with him? Because he has always said that is what he wants the most. Or will he be extremely resentful and drop us altogether as friends? The 3 of us have been friends for a long time and I would hate for this to be the wedge that drives us apart. I mean, I never meant for this to happen. It just kinda snuck up on me. And the last thing either of us wants to do is hurt him, but maybe there is no way to help that. Its just that he is so messed up right now because he figures she is just putting up the front of being a friend (not true), and this might just be the last nail in the coffin. And he would probably feel I had betrayed him, going ahead with this even though I knew how he felt. But she can't change the way she feels, and neither can I. He is going to find out sooner or later obviously, but I want him to hear it from us. How we're going to do that, I have no clue, and I'm not looking forward to it at all. We always said that we wouldn't let women come between us, and he also said that he wouldn't have a problem if I went after her (long time ago), but its different when it actually comes up. Its different when the woman in question has rejected him because she doesn't feel the same and does feel it for the other friend.
I guess I just wanted to get that off my chest. I just don't know what to do.
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and if you didn't go for her I would smack you) if that is the one then congradualtions once again 
