unfortunately, you are right, and hitman is most likely wrong... as usual I suppose... my '96 did the exact same thing. presumably, ford stealership could install updated code which corrected the bug in the original software. it would cost ya, of course.
so yes, they all do it, and short of $200 software flush there ain't nothing that would work.
however, you can try to pull fuses #4 and #11 and carefully relearn idle. it will be good for a week or so and then either come back to the old behavior, or will be a good girl till next computer reset. this is not very scientific, but it worked...