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dump her, but be shure to get that final bang be fore you do 
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If you even have to ask if you should still be in a relationship because you're worried it might mess up your fun and new experiences in college then obviously it means next to nothing to you so why wouldn't you leave her? The same goes for the fact that you're asking a bunch of strangers if you should stay with a girl that you're supposedly in love with.
"Hey baby, I love you so much. You mean the world to me and I'm so happy we're together, but I don't want being tied down to you to potentially hinder the new experiences and best time of my life that I'm expecting to have next year. I mean, I really really love you, but you know, a long distance relationship would be hard and I don't want to miss out on things because I'm tied down. Plus, I might meet some new girl. I really love you though baby."
WTF mate?
Obviously this is not the consensus of the group, but again, if you're worried about it being hard or hindering your possible future experiences, what are you doing in the relationship in the first place? Unless you reevaluate this whole dumb idea, it seems like your decision is pretty easy.
On a side note, I realize that she's pretty young and that you mature a lot (hopefully) your first year off at college. If that's the reason that things don't work out then more power to you. But telling the girl you're in love with that you're leaving her because you think she might mess up your future experiences is asinine.
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What college are you going to? Clarkson, RPI, PSU?
I say keep ties with her, chicks up here tend to be fat.
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Well, I think there is one point that has only been mentioned once and that I agree with. What are your long term plans for this relationship. If you say that this relationship has a potential future, then giving it up for "pie in the sky" would be idiotic. If however this is "puppy Love" and you are not sure if the moment you leave one or both of you are going to hop in the sack with someone/anyone, then it is only fair to call the relationship off. The third option is still to put the relationship "on hold", with the understanding that she or you can move on. What is that stupid saying, "if you love something, set it free..."
I can understand the draw of many, rumoured to be easy, hot college girls that you can potentially bag. I suspect that EVERY man thinks about this and wonders... hmmm if I were not with the woman I am with, my evening would be filled with different hot women every night. (Yes, even happily married guys think that - and if they say they don't, they lie). Question is, is it worth it, and it rarely is.
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What kind of commie college doesn't allow you to have a car?
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Originally posted by Nate S:
i dont know what to do. i know college is all about meeting new people, and im really looking forward to it, but i dont want to lose her...
-nate
All high school couples who don't really like each other use the excuse "college is about meeting people so we need to break up" to go their separate ways when college starts. If that fits here, then use that.
"Puppy love" will never stand the test of a long distance relationship, so my advice to you is to seriously review the type of relationship you have with this girl. If you think it's the kind of love that can endure several weeks, if not months, apart, then go for it. Since you've only been with her for a few months, that may be hard to determine.
I wish you luck, and recommend that you do what's in your heart.
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Originally posted by DanLeCompte:
But telling the girl you're in love with that you're leaving her because you think she might mess up your future experiences is asinine.
well i never meant it like that...but i understand where you're coming from. what im really more worried about is making the sort of commitment involved in a long distance relationship, among a million other things, which is what makes this decision very difficult.
Originally posted by DanLeCompte:
The same goes for the fact that you're asking a bunch of strangers if you should stay with a girl that you're supposedly in love with.
why? im just gathering opinions and personal experiences of long distance relationships
Originally posted by PackRat:
What kind of commie college doesn't allow you to have a car?
haha, its only the first year you're not allowed to have a car, some colleges do this to keep freshmen on campus i guess...im going to hamilton.
Originally posted by Trogdor Burninator:
What college are you going to? Clarkson, RPI, PSU?
I say keep ties with her, chicks up here tend to be fat.
yeah, great reason 
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Originally posted by Nate S:
Originally posted by PackRat:
What kind of commie college doesn't allow you to have a car?
haha, its only the first year you're not allowed to have a car, some colleges do this to keep freshmen on campus i guess...im going to hamilton.
That's ridiculous. [censored] commie bastards.
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Originally posted by PackRat:
What kind of college doesn't allow you to have a car?
Seems like almost every College in Boston, and most on the East Coast. There are 2 trains of thought on this. One, they want to keep the kids on campus for the first year without running home to mommy every weekend. But in Boston, there is no room for everyone to have a car, so you've got to earn the privledge. Sounds like a good idea to me. But enough about that.
As for the relationship thing, I tried a long distance releationship during college, and it sucked ass. I ended up spending many nights on the phone instead of out with my friends. Make the most of your college years. Especially your first semester. Everyone is looking to meet new people, so make sure you do to. The bonds and friendships I made my first year are still strong, and some of the strongest friendships I've had. A group of about 4-5 of us get together once every 3-6 months in a new city. We all live across the country, and stay in touch. Just to give you an idea.
Hang onto her if you'd like, but in the end you will most likely not stay together, and the best thing to do would probably be break up now. Otherwise you'll both feel worse down the road.
I knew of alot of HS relationships that tried staying together in college. Not ONE out of the 10-15 I know of lasted beyond the first year. A few of my buddies were together for a while. College is a complete change. A couple friends even dropped out of college because the inevitable breakup really messed with their heads. Sure, eventually it works out, but its tough! It takes alot of energy to make a Long Dist. relationship work, and IMO its not worth it.
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I don't know dude, you're going off to college and she's two years younger than you. Breaking up with her would be a bad idea if she's a obsessive b*tch. Because that relationship is illegal by law. I know it is in New York State. The age of consent is 17 here. You being 18, her being either 15 or 16 depending on her birthday. I think that is considered first degree rape. Hopefully she's not a pyscho who would try to get back at you by telling the cops. Good luck to you.  My friends and I were talking about all this and one of my friends actually is going out with some chick who is 3 years younger than him, he's 19 and she's 16, or something like that. He got so scared that he might end up in jail over her, he broke it off with her later that night.
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