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im going off to college as a freshman in august in upstate NY, and i dont know what to do about my gf. she will be a junior in HS, in cleveland, ohio. my family moved to minnesota recently. this basically sucks. and i wont have a car 1st year in college (not allowed on campus). there are other ways we can see eachother though. she understands if i want to end the relationship, since college is all about meeting new people, but i know she wants to stay with me, she loves me. we've been going out over 3 months now. right now im in minnesota, ill be going back to cleveland for about a week in august to see friends before college, so ill be with her then... i dont know what to do. i know college is all about meeting new people, and im really looking forward to it, but i dont want to lose her... at first i thought it was absolutely CRAZY to do this, but ive been thinking...figured i might as well TRY, right? i mean if i last a year and then ill have a car sophomore year, we'll be able to see eachother frequently  anyways thats what i told her, for now...(yes, i know this sounds crazy) well that was my rant...thanks for listening... -nate
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If you enjoy testing new waters then maybe you otta try being on your own for this first term in college. However, I forewarn you that almost everybody else who reads this post will be damned quick to point out that 3 months is hardly long enough to be 'in love'.  Good luck though.
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Dump her, but make sure whatever river you dump her in that it's deep and the body is weighted. 
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Originally posted by Kremithefrog:
Dump her, but make sure whatever river you dump her in that it's deep and the body is weighted.
[censored], so THATS why the last body floated...*smacks head* WEIGHTS!!
Originally posted by SAV-ZX2:
However, I forewarn you that almost everybody else who reads this post will be damned quick to point out that 3 months is hardly long enough to be 'in love'.
you have a good point, but when you spend nearly every day with someone, that sort of starts to happen 
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No cars allowed?! You gonna be going to the University of NoModernConveniences? GO FIGHTIN' AMISH! MOVE THAT BALL!  You 2 need to just agree to see other people and see what happens.
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Originally posted by SAV-ZX2:
I forewarn you that almost everybody else who reads this post will be damned quick to point out that 3 months is hardly long enough to be 'in love'.
thats the first thing i thought.
anyway, i would stop dating her (its only been 3 months!!). especially with the age difference. 2 years ago i was a freshman, and the last thing i would have wanted was to be tied down to someone. i am by no means saying that i "hooked up" constantly (not nearly as much as i should have ), but i just enjoyed being on my own and not having to worry about someone else. i broke up with someone too when i left, but we both knew it was for the best. we are still great friends and i see her from time to time when im back in Fl.
i guess it works for some people, so maybe you shouldnt be so quick to decide. if she knows whats up she should understand if it happens later. so maybe its worth trying, but for me it wouldnt work. there is plenty of time later to be dating. i started a relationship a couple of months ago, a much better time for me, and i couldnt be happier.
by the way, get ready for the best years of your life!
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You've got nothing to lose by trying to make it work, if that's what you really want to do.
Yes, college is about meeting people, and will probably be some of the greatest years of your life, but a girlfriend doesn't preclude you from doing anything except sleeping with other women. And, while that can be important in determining what it is you 'really want', it's not nearly as critical as many other things.
I had a long distance relationship in college as well (now married to her), and it was great. While other guys always had their girls nagging on them about not spending enough time with them (and its' rampant), I could do whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted, with whomever I wanted as long as I didn't cross the prescribed "lines".
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Relationships suck.... most of the time! Only 3 months is barley putting your feet into the water. I'm goin on 2 years with my girl, i was gone for a week and she came crying to me a month after i came back that she Made out with one of my best friends, and my other best friend seen more than he should of... That happened in a week of me being gone. Think of what would happen without seing your girl for a year. I'm not saying leave her, but i am saying look at what could happen. Just dont wanna see you bummin over someone you thought you could trust.
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It's really a matter of how much you 2 care about each other and how willing you are to try to make it work. And anyone who says that 3 months is not enough time to love someone is full of crap...there is no TIME LIMIT on when you fall in love with someone..it can happen in an instant or a year or longer.
I've dealt with this quite a bit being in the military and moving around so much and even though I'm mostly an utter failure at relationships I can say a few helpful words on this subject.
Know that it will be VERY HARD to make it work. You both have to have a very strong trust in each other; otherwise insecure thoughts are going to creep into your minds and accusations of cheating and things of that nature will begin to fly. Do you see yourself having a future with this girl? Like possible marriage one day and all that? If so then I'd say definitely try to work it out. If not, then you have to decide if you want to continue through the unavoidable diffuclt times ahead with a long distance relationship just to see if your feelings change and you do decide you want more...whether or not it's worth it only you know.
As far as the college thing: yeah I'm sure you will have tons of fun and plenty of opportunity to have wild sexcapades and all that. You have to ask yourself: Is screwing a bunch of college girls worth giving up what you have with your current girl? Again, you're the only one who knows the answer to that. If you are unsure to the answer then I would say either go the "see other people" route or break it off. Otherwise the relationship will probably fail because it was never that strong to begin with and you will end up resenting her for in your mind "denying me the chance of a lifetime to live it up at college"
Good luck with whatever you do decide and good luck in college as well.
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cant edit the original, but i just wanted to clarify. im not saying break up so you can hook up with tons of girls. i didnt. i was saying i just enjoyed doing my own thing for a while. [bub rubb on]thats it and thats all!
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