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so i am playing around on my comp and i see my ex has her msn name and password saved on my comp. being curious, i sign in and check some email. nothing really i think but i check one from a chic i hadnt heard of. read it and this is what it said:

Hi, Mandy! (but I also love the name Miranda, so maybe
next time I'll say "Hi, Miranda!") :-)

I was so excited when I saw your e-mail! Thanks for
writing! I was in Ann Arbor last weekend, showing a
friend around. It was fun, but it was graduation
weekend, so it was it pretty crazy...and the weather
wasn't so great. We had fun, anyway.

No, I don't go to WMU. I graduated from a small
college in Indiana (near where I was born and grew up)
two years ago. Still trying to find a job where I can
use my English degree.

I've got the day off work, today, and spent the
morning and first part of the afternoon outside. It
was soooo nice! I can't wait until it's warm and
sunny everyday. I love to be outside, especially in
the woods, hiking and exploring. I also love
bicycling. There are some great trails here in Kzoo.

I guess I should tell you that I came out as a lesbian
when I was 19 (I went to my hs prom with my boyfriend,
but wished I was with my best friend!). :-) I've had
two long-term-ish relationships and quite a few casual
dates with other women. I'm very comfortable and open
about it, but not showy or an activist or anything.

Gee, what else would you like to know about me? May I
ask, what was it that made you write to me? (I really
liked what you said about my smile in your e-mail!)

Please write back soon!



they met on yahoo personals and it costs $20 to join for a month so its not just something you just do, she went out of her way. the email is from the 6th of may and we split on like the 1st but still talked and were like a couple for awhile. i confronted her about it and she didnt want to but finally admitted to it. this all happened tonight. im just [censored] blown away. wtf. how do i deal with this. i know she still is into me but how do i deal. threesome is cool but i dont think i would want it with someone i love/loved. man guys, anyone else ever have this happen. im so lost. i dont know what way is up. i just laugh about it. i dont like to bring chic [censored] here anymore but this is something else. lemme know what you guys think

oh man... you turned a chick gay??

Go for the threesome. Lucky bastage.

Yikes.

i dont know if i turned her so much. i kinda noticed things when we first started but payed no attention. she would always say it was so gross and what not. i dont think i did atleast but maybe. but so did all her other 10 attempts.

Maybe you were so good that she knew no other man would do. One of my best chick friends came out a couple years ago and I just assumed that she had been hurt by guys in the past, had low self esteem and found that being with a girl was an easy way for acceptance and to feel loved. She's straight again, so just let it get out of her system. But then again, she's your ex, so do you really give a f*ck?

BTW, one of my ex-girlfriends left all her MSN crap on my computer, so when it signs on when I start the computer, I always get some instant messages from her friends/family. Trust me, use it wisely and you can have a hell of lot of fun. They think they're talking to her, so I'll make them think that she's pregnant or addicted to drugs...oh so evil.

My personal opinion (and you may not like it): It's her life to do with as she wishes. If you guys are still friends (and want to remain that way), then let her know that you like/love/whatever her for who she is, whatever that may entail.

She's no different than she was 2 months ago, except for the fact that you reached in and ripped a personal secret (pardon the pun) out of the closet.

If you don't want to stay in a relationship with her (of any nature), then talk her into a 3some and bid her a good life when it is over.

Obviously you don't really trust her, since you felt it was OK to read her personal email and thus violate her privacy. So, looks pretty doubtful she's going to become a lifelong friend/partner anyway. Time to move on - you have a lot of life ahead of you, God willing.

yeah PA, i agree 100%. she's got big time issues and she's not someone ya wanna wife up with. i dont know what i wanna do exactly but im more less just playing it out. im sure i wont have much say in the matter so im just gonna sit back. like you said, plenty of life ahead, just kinda humorous/shocking/disturbing all in one blow. haha. oh well

She didn't ask you why you thought it was OK to use her login and read her personal messages? I'm not being confrontational, just a little surprised.