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C'mon guys, let's keep it clean smile

Sex is not an issue for me. I love her, I think she's beautiful, but her attitude towards not wanting to have to learn things, not wanting to know current events, etc, bothers me, as well as thinking that we need new things without consulting the checkbook first. :p

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I just bought a house. Several things NEED to be done. The porch and Garage NEED new windows and siding.

After we first looked at the house my girl comes outside and says: We NEED to redo the bathroom (which was perfectly fine) and we NEED to finish the basement.

I don't know if all women, or just the ones I've dated over my 23 years on this earth (I was a pimp as a toddler laugh ) seem to decide that if they WANT something, it automatically becomes a NEED and all logic goes out the window. This explains why so many women buy thousands of dollars of stuff because it's on sale and so they are saving money.

Take the Wal-Mart by our house for instance. I go in, straight to what I NEED, grab it, straight to the register, and out.

She goes in, mills around for hours looking at completely useless items that we don't need, or that would replace something that doesn't need replaced, and comes out spending way too much money (my money) on junk.

The funny thing is that on the rare occasions that we go shopping and she is buying, she is as frugal as can be. She only wastes my money mad


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Same here. We NEEDED a china cabinet because she decided to buy some china. Sorry, we didn't need the china in the first place...now you want to buy a $150+ cabinet for it? Sad thing is I ended up buying it because I just couldn't stand listening to her bark about it every day, especially after I got my income tax and bought those SE rims from Chris Hightower; she made me feel guilty and said that since I got something for me she should be able to get the china cabinet. mad

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All this comes down to are different Priorites. My wife and I deal with this all the time. I want to finish my car, she want's a 5K camera to start a business. Neither of us have the money to do all this overnight. If we plan and save then OK we can do it.

Rynn -Your girlfriend just wants it because it's different and something new. Same with the cloths, I would recommend telling her that you aren't spending your money on that you'd rather spend the 100 on a Credit Card Bill that she has run up.

The question of the day is why are you letting her buy China and a China Cabinet. It's obvious you want her to stick around for a while so you both need to start playing on the same team or get it finished over and done with.

Explain your views to her calmly, generalize as much as possible, (I.E. We spend too much; not You spend to much) making pointed remarks is a hard thing not to do. If she starts doing it during the discussion to try and end it ignore them. Continue explaining the situation until a resolution is met. Also with the current economic climate it might be a good idea to put the Credit Cards in a drawer if your using them as a borrowing tool instead of a cash management tool.


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dump her now. One day it's a newer and better bed, the next day it's a newer and better man!!!

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Rynn - Her looks will be shot one day, and you'll still have to live with her empty head.

Never marry someone who's not your intellectual equal; you'll regret it always...


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Her inability or unwillingness to live within her/your means is a serious issue. You probably have had a few chats about it before, but you need to have a serious conversation about money.

Now on the other hand, her not wanting to stay in touch with current events or watch educational TV shows is not an issue. That is your problem if you are letting trivial **** like that bother you.

Good luck man.

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Originally posted by Rynn:
Same here. We NEEDED a china cabinet because she decided to buy some china. Sorry, we didn't need the china in the first place...now you want to buy a $150+ cabinet for it? Sad thing is I ended up buying it because I just couldn't stand listening to her bark about it every day, especially after I got my income tax and bought those SE rims from Chris Hightower; she made me feel guilty and said that since I got something for me she should be able to get the china cabinet. mad
Where the heck did you get a $140 china cabinet. Ours was 10X that much.

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Lived over 30 years without a China Cabinet, Dust Ruffles or Pillow Shams, then I got married.


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Quote:
Originally posted by javaContour:
Dust Ruffles or Pillow Shams
confused


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Originally posted by javaContour:
[b]Dust Ruffles or Pillow Shams
confused [/b]
Dust Ruffle:

http://www.hgtv.com/HGTV/project/0,1158,DEID_project_5180,00.html

Pillow Sham:

http://sewing.about.com/library/weekly/aa021299.htm

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