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I totally agree with Antonio's logic. He and I have the same overall thoughts on matters like this.
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Originally posted by Antonio Wright: Originally posted by TheBoxsterGuy: [b] Originally posted by Antonio Wright: [b] quote:
Originally posted by PA 3L SVT:
Not necessarily true - I know at least two married couples that got it on after their first date. Heh, I was wearing a tux at both weddings now that I think of it. It's not when the sexual relationship starts, it's how the couple's complete relationship grows (or fails to grow) after then that matters. Well that may be the case, but that relationship is going to be harder to grow because you ****ed on the first night.[/b] My logic is how can I trust you?? It only took the first night to have sex. In my current relationship I waited for 6 months to have sex. I wanted to jump her bones bad, but I said nah. I want to get to know the person. When you get the sweet spot early it is pretty damn hard trying to stay focused trying to know her, because you already got what you really wanted. Follow me? -Antonio
Yeap!! If she gives it up the first night, makes you wonder later if she has done it with God knows how many guys and then all these thoughts of "does she have any STDs, can she have HIV" and you keep piling up these thoughts and that's when the "relationship" goes down the toilet!!
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And then, there are the ones that want to make you a Daddy, and fnck you life!
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Go at whatever pace works for you too! She didn't cheat on her ex with you while you got to know each other so that is a good sign. You've been getting friendly for a while so it wouldn't shock me if it happened soon but it also wouldn't shock me it the sexual tension between you two fueled the relationship to begin with!
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Wait a minute, now.... Why, if a guy and a girl sleep together on the first date, is SHE a hoe? Why aren't you guys considered "EASY", as well? :rolleyes: That is just plain wrong!  Look... don't rush it.. don't force it on her, and don't let her force it on you.. Everyone would like to tell you their perfect idea of "when" is right, but to be honest.. nobody can answer that, but yourself. It all depends on how well you two click... I have been in a relationship where we didn't kiss for months, and hadn't slept together for the first YEAR AND A HALF... Which blows that theory of all easy girls being headcases, because she wasn't "easy" and she WAS a headcase..  I have also been in a relationship where we flirted, HEAVILY, but weren't actually "going out", at all.. and things fell in to place, and we slept together very quickly.... I am the happiest with HER...  So... if it is natural, it will happen.. To answer your question.. When is the appropriate length of time to have sex with someone you are dating? When you have sex with someone you are dating. (as long as neither of you rushed it, and both of you wanted it...) Just be true to yourself, and to her, and you will get all that you ask for, from your relationship.. HTH Ray
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I think it all depends on the chemistry between the two of you. Mind you I have to agree that a chick that gives it up too easy is going to make you think thrice!
If you find that all you are doing is talking gibberish with the girl just to make up the time before you get her silkies off, then it isn't the right relationship for you. I love talking, joking around with my girl, hanging out and just snuggling on the couch watching the stupid-box. Then again when we do hit the boudoir - it ROCKS!
Communication is way more important than sex, I found that out the hard way - divorce!
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Maybe it's the way I do relationships, but in all my good relationships the girl and I slept together within the first few dates. Maybe because my life is very chaotic & complex so I pickup on girls with simaliar experiences, but I take my time and focus with her in the sack, so the relationship is born.  As for the trust, sex to me is a great measure of trust. The girl trusts me to put herself in such a vulnerble position both physically and mentally, and I put the same trust in her. No trust = No sex. But that's just my oppinion. I could be wrong.
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Originally posted by Justin Rempe:
I totally agree with Antonio's logic. He and I have the same overall thoughts on matters like this. and if you ride his jock any harder we'll have to call you Antonio Jr. 
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look, when you get down to it, human beings are animals.
we are constantly looking for a mate so we can reproduce and pass on our genes.
so you're obviously gonna select that mate based on sex.
I see nothing wrong with a relationship that starts out by 2 people being sexually attracted, having some sexual encounters and going from there.
I personally saved myself (if you want to call it that) til I knew I was with the correct person.
but I still won't deny allowing the sexual attraction being the initial reason why I chose the guys I did choose to date.
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