Contour Enthusiasts Group Archives Forums General Common Interests Success.... Should I let something stop me?? (gf)

Ok, first off..... I'm sure my girlfriend will be on here while I'm at work to read this. So, I love you very much honey, but I've got to ask for some outside non-biast help.
I believe all people have atleast ONE god given talent. It just so happens that I've got one and I'm proud of it. I was born to play the drums and that's what I LOVE to do. There are very few forms of release. When I'm playing the drums and in middle of a show, I feel worry free, like I'm pouring my emotions into ever flick of the drum stick. I wasn't tought to play, I just knew how. As strange as that may sound, it's true. I beat on pots and pans as a child. I beat on them at my uncles house, but no one ever taught me. One day in my 5th grade band class, out teacher asked us if we'd like to play the "Drum set". There is sat, the big white set with a big mean tiger on the front bass drum head. Several of us wanted to, so I waited in line as I listened to some HORRIBLE efforts to play a beat. It was my turn and I sat down and some how just knew what to do. I started to play a rock beat without really thinking about it. It's been history since then.
Anyway, I think that this talent is my one and only chance to be TRULY successful in life. I mean, yes I can go to school and be whatever I want to be. I'm in a band now and doing well. We all want to make it big and that's possible. But we all know that there is 29393 bands out there and only a handfull make it.
In some recent talks with my girlfriend of 3 years, we came up on the subject of me making it "big" in drumming. Now, I'm looking out for me. If some big band is looking for a replacement, I'll try out and if I make it, I'll go and do what it takes. This is where my trouble begins. My GF says she'll leave me if I make it big. She says she doesn't want me around the girls, drugs, fame, GIRLS, GIRLS....... get my point?????? Anyway, I tell her that it doesn't mean I have to give into the temptations. I feel as if she is saying that she would hold me back from doing what I want. This scares me, if she has a chance to do something to better herself or her life, I would encourage it. Granting it wasn't something like a porn star!!!!

Anyway, it's truely my life goal to make it as a drummer/musician. It's the only thing I'm truely good at and I want to pursue it. I love my GF VERY VERY Much and want her to enjoy it with me (if it ever happens). What do you all think of this? Any suggestions to tell her?
sorry so long... maybe I should write a book........ This has just got me depresssed......... Jason

Go for it. Life's too short not to try. You don't want to spend the rest of you life regretting not giving it a shot.

As a wise man once said, "If you don't get to livin,' you might as well get to dyin.'"

Why not set a time frame? Give it a year or two and if you get sick of the lifestyle you can always throw on a suit and get a 9-5 job then.

I wouldn't sweat it, tackle the problem only if/when it comes up. No sense in worrying now about "making it big" when so few people do.

If you let her hold you back, you'll end up blaming her for the rest of your life anyway. If she doesn't trust you, then she's not the right one for you anyway.

so essentially your g/f is saying she doesn't trust you?
that's pretty low (unless of course you've given her reasons not to trust you in the past).
I'd be pretty insulted by that just the same.

besides, everyone knows chicks only dig the lead singers to bands. hehe j/k!

Success, fame and money doesn't change a man. It unmasks who he really is at his core.

Temptations are much more readily accessible when fame and fortune come knocking, but I've never seen anyone have them crammed down their throat. If you've a strong sense of character, then go for it.

Try it and if you succeed or fail, know that you were man enough to give it a shot.

Follow your heart dude...follow your dream. If you don't, you'll regret it for the rest of your life.

How do you feel about this g/f of yours? Is she "the one"? You have been together for 3 years...any wedding plans? Is this a permanant thing? If she truly truly loved you, she'd support you, and stand by you, and help you stay away from the negative aspects of the music biz.

Just my $.02 'cuz you asked...

Do Not let anything stop you from following your dreams.

Just make sure you know what your true dreams are.

my $.02

I think leaving you would be best for her and you!

Long distance relationships absolutely suck! Distance makes trust a much trickier issue. Her worrying about you while your out. i can only imagine the rock star life style to be far from normal and the women, well thats undeniable. I'd say for you sake and hers. It would be best to break it off. You won't feel guilty or hide something if you get drunk and something happens. I don't know you but, something inevitably will happen, unless she is with you. It always does.

I think she loves you so much she would rather leave you than make you deal with such complications or put herself thru the pain. How many famous people break up over infidelity!

Same with going away to college and keeping a relationship. There is to much temptation around and to many chance to **** up on accident. If my girlie went away to school, and I told her this fromt he begining. I would break it off. I did a long distance relationship once and will never ever do it again. I don't mean a couple months apart. I mean more than 4 or 5 and it on more than one occasion.

Good Luck!
-Andy

Well even though this is your view.. I look at it like this. I love my girl. I don't care if she is 5 miles down the road or 5 millions miles down the road.

Jaydog, Why are you worried about it? You aint big yet so dont sweat it. To be honest I really doubt your girl is going to leave you becuase wants you start blinging she will be singing a different tune. Just live life now and wait and she.

-Antonio