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Agreed. Although prayer covers a multitude of sins, there are times when we all need to do something about the situation.

Bad Apple, in that light, I would like to invite you to PM me (if you would like). I don't know if I can help, but I don't think that it will hurt. I can share with you the tough times in my life that I have gone through (which have been quite a few). It might help to know that there are other people out there that have gone through similar circumstances and come out the other side.

Also, if there is someone out there that lives in the Lake Mary, FL area, you might want to consider getting together w/ Bad Apple (if he wants) to compare rides, have a cup of coffee, etc.

The MarkO Guy: I will reply to your comments in a PM (in a civil manner of course ), since I don't want this thread to go off-topic. It is important to keep the focus of this thread on Bad Apple's situation.

I must say I agree with g pappas. You really should try prayer , bellieve me it works.
But even if you don't some of the advise given was good. You should deffinately take one day at a time. But try this. Try to focus on what seems impossible and believe it to be possible. Like it may seem impossible to get over her but in do time you will if you believe that you can. If you believe that you can get over her and keep a positive atmosphere (which is anything that reminds you of her you should get rid of , if you already haven't.) Then you will FORGET TO REMEMBER HER. I didn't say you will forget her but you will FORGET TO REMEMBER HER. Which will make moving on alot easier.

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I'll keep my advice short as possible as this is a longggggggggggg thread. I have have never lost a lover before, but I have lost some of those I love, one to suicide. Let me tell you something Bad Apple, IT HURTS! Depression can be an ugly thing. You may not care about yourself, but what should stop you as those who love you. This include: parents, friends, relatives, co-workers, your contour, etc. If you hold out, later you will be glad that you didn't do it, trust me, I speak from experience. Talk to a psychologist, they are very helpful. At the risk of being flamed here, pray about it and ask God for help. I can't give you much advice as to how to cope, but when I am down, I try to stay very busy. Do fun things or find projects that need doing to keep my mind off. If I just sit there and sulk it gets much worse. I am sure you will find true love, but it wont' come when you expect it to. Good luck in dealing with your situation. Maybe it would cheer you up to go for a nice (slow) cruise in your car. Best of wishes. Sorry the post ran longer than I thought.

Suicide:
Permanent solution to a temporary problem.

relationships suck, i got the same problems dude. I commited and got burned after 3 ****ing years! Now I just sleep around when I can. I still think about the X everyday and we cut it off last october. Just try and keep yourself busy, hang out with your friends as much as possible.
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Hey, Bad Apple. Just like everyone is saying, just hang in there and don't cheat yourself. Saying that "I was lucky to get her" is a crock of ****. YOU MUST LOVE YOURSELF BEFORE SOMEONE ELSE CAN LOVE YOU IN RETURN. Please remember that. I have learned a few things that have helped me in various hard situations. One is that you were born alone, and you will die alone: meaning that you stood on your own two feet before you ever met her, and you WILL be able to do the same without her. Another and the most important to me. That which doesn't kill me will make me stronger: meaning that this situation (hopefully) will not kill you but rather will better prepare you for the challenges that lie ahead in your path through life. Like I said, please don't short-change yourself. You are worth it. If you want to PM me about anything, feel free.

This is good advice. Another thing I often do is let my imagination run wild. I do the same as you when I'm frustrated, Bad Apple: daydream about taking the car on the highway, going to 90, turning the steering wheel HARD and pulling the e-brake (to execute a flip or at least hit the rock cliffs). The thing, however, is I let my imagination go further. I see the cops and ambulance; I see my parents pulling up in the family van and running over, red from crying. My imagination goes further, even to my funeral, - depending on how angry I feel at the moment - and by seeing exactly how much people would miss me (and what good things they'd say about me on the pulpit ) allows me to pull through whatever is holding be back or causing the depression. Thinking about what good they might find in me also uplifts me sometimes; it's like reviewing my own good qualities. Sorry to be so detailed/personal here; but these thoughts (the "after the fact" thoughts) actually help me to cope. Sometimes I cry myself just thinking about how sad everyone would be for me (I'm almost teary-eyed now; I've never actually written this stuff out before)
Precisely my feeling...

BAD APPLE..... Check your e-mail.. I sent you my number man... The offer is open.. Look me up and we'll go out to the Street Races or something... Just smile ... All will work out in the long run... Everything happens for a reason. Life is full of ups and downs.... All you need to ask yourself is Will This Matter In Five Years... I think you will realize if you think about it in five years you will be in a different level of your life... She may have taken you for a spin by doin that to you but would you rather be with a woman who doesn't love you and appreciate you or would you rather find the woman who will put you on a pedestal and truly love you???? Think about it and drop me a line... I'm right down the street.... It may also help to have an outsiders opinion ( as you may have already noticed from these posts ). None of us truly know you as a person yet we all feel your pain, and in one way or another have been there.... Life is full of challenges and you will grow as a person as each of these challenges pass by. We are here for ya.....

I'm not being a wise @$$ here. Wash your car. Be meticulous about it, show the car that you love it. Then, go inside, shower shave dress well, and go cruisin in the tour, windows open and music cranking. You need to feel good about yourself. If you show care for your things and treat yourself like a king, it will sink in to your thoughts. Then it will show from the inside out, and you will have a new Mrs. Contour passenger before you know it.