Contour Enthusiasts Group Archives Forums General General Thinking of selling for personal reasons, need opinions

yea itll work

edit- just to let you know buckshot I know what its like to be put on the side b/c of someones love for their belongings (and no IM not speaking of justin) justin says he's bad w/ his car and all but he is by far better than my last boyfriend... my last boyfriend used to break dates with me to wash his car.. all he does is work on his car and he will prob marry his car one day.. everyone talks about him and his car.. its never chris its always chris and his car b/c all he does is spend time w/ his car - he cares about nothing but his car..

Im glad you have realized that your wife means more b/c you are right a car is just a hunk of metal... You shouldnt have to get rid of your car... just make sure that she knows that she means more - thats whats important

Keep your car.

No matter what you do for women, they complain anyway. If it isn't your car, it will be something else.

well said.

Rick,
I think you should keep the contour. cause you could always end up doing the same thing with another car whatever it might be... just limit your time playing with the car. and being that when we were heading to the hotel at SZ you told me you had thought about getting a zetec contour to toy around with makes me think no matter the car you would be always thinking "what if I did this... how much faster would it be" I think you should just work out a amout of time that is ok to work on the car and stick with that.

it must be the season...i dont even touch my car and im in the dog house...i've had to back out a few parts buys the last few months to avoid the evil eye

sometimes people just dont understand a guys love for cars and working on them, but at the same time that car cant become the only thing you think about...often we forget to keep doing the things that got us the wonderful girlfriend or wife in the first place

having the engine problems probably didn't help much since women think we're putz's alot of the time anyway...

i'd say keep the car but back away from working on it so much...as i think about it, in a way, you are building a car for an entire website of peolpe...with everyone asking whats up and hows it coming and all the people that were in the loop back on that sad dyno day....that takes up alot of your time im sure and is also a lot of pressure to spend more time on it to roll it out by deadlines such as spring zing instead of being able to work at a leisure pace and balance your time better

start spending time with her or more time if u spend little....but look at the big picture...if things are just maybe going bad anyway or the compatibility is gone then selling the 'tour probably wont solve the problem

good luck and god bless you in this situation

I dunno what to say to all of you. The car is coming off the classifieds though. Selling it would just be another way I'd be telling her that this is something I can fix just as easily as my car. She isn't a car, I can't just tweak a couple things and expect our relationship to run right again. The car is going on the back burner for a while except for obligations as they come up and for when I know I'm not taking something away from our relationship.

I know someone said something about building the car for an entire web group and that being a driving force. You couldn't have been more right, I wanted the car for myself but I think more importantly I was working on it for everyone else's approval and envy. I just wanted to finally have something that no-one else had and that every one would envy in some way. Group approval is a powerful force, but now that I'm at the point I am, I can see that even as much as everyone here means to me, if I don't get the love from my wife, I'm missing out on the most important thing!

I can't beleive the amount of support you all are giving me. It has really been great and for those of you that I know personally and/or have contacted me outside this thread offering to help even if you didn't know me, I can't thank you enough!

Things are very rough right now, but I think we are at least on some type of path to resolve the situation in one way or another. At least now we will know for sure what the outcome is and was meant to be. Wish me luck!

Thanks with all sincerity!!!!!!!!!
Rick

Rick, I guess I am not as addicted to tinkering as you are, but it seems to me you need some kind of rigid schedule to abide by. I ran into this with my girlfriend about computers mostly. I have now learned to match my computer time with her away or working time. Your wife has a softball game? Thats 3 hours of car time for you. Going out shopping with a girlfriend? You can sneak in an oil change, or if you give her the credit card, maybe a remote filter installl...

Point is, you can make time for your hobby when she is away, and that doesn't hurt anyone. The only thing to avoid is conscious chosing of the car modding over spending time with her. When you see her watching tv in the living room, drop the wrench and grab the remote.

All the advise has been given and I see you've made your choice. I didn't pipe in earlier because I wouldn't have been much help. My last long term girl gave me an ultimatum. The car bug was biting into the realtionship. She is gone and the car is here. It's my joy and if I can't have joy than what's the point. Call me shallow if you will but it's my hobby. You have yours and I have mine. Although mine is a little more costly. After that breakup I began to see the light. I'm running out of mods which is also a good thing. Well I want a new paint job and a 3.0 but can't afford them. The car will definately be going on the back burner in my next long termer but the car is never going anywhere. If anything for financial reasons. Too much time and $ into her.

Ya, I know what you mean about having joy. I'm not going to give that up because if I do, it's going to negatively impact how I feel about her.

As far as money, I bet I've got ya beat on costs- $16K in mods and 12K for the car= $28K invested. It's as addictive as drugs at times and I'm beginning to wonder if drugs aren't actually cheaper in the long run :rolleyes:

It really is easy to lose sight of what is important at times. I know sometimes I spend too much time reading car magazines or watching things like Crank and Chrome, but my girlfriend has been remarkably understanding. I also know that I am lucky in this regard.

If you are spending too much time on the car and the Internet, it's time to realign your priorities. You can set aside time to work on the car, but more importantly, set aside time to be with the people you love. They, after all are the ones who will support you when the chips are down. Cars are pieces of metal (I can't believe I am writing this), inanimate machinations that are really no more than conveyances that we use for a period of time in our lives. People are very life itself, helping us when we are down, celebrating good times, caring and loving.

It is OK to love a car, but it cannot compete with loving a person. I have been planning a Mustang project for some time, but a large part of the plan is keeping it at my dad's and getting him to help me so we can build something together. We only have a finite amount of time together on this Earth, and I want to make the most of it.

In the end, it is all about balance. You can have a great car, or a project, but if you don't make that weld tonight, or if you don't get that wiring harness sorted out by Friday, does it really matter in the grand scheme of things? No. It is a hobby, something we do in our SPARE time. ASnd time spent with those we love is not spare time. It is essential.