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Lately I have felt like I am in this rut that I cant get out of. I cant have any fun, not even doing the things I used to like doing. When I was talking to pete online last night he said to me something along the lines of "You are just going through that akward phase" I dont know... Just feels like waking up in the morning has gotten pointless, all I do is go to work then go home and sit on my ass or come up with some wierd project for my car. I dont really know what else to do with my time... My friends are getting ready for school and have very little time for friends anymore, I cant seem to meet new people because midland's hang outs have the same people every single night. Is this some kind of sign? Like, I have reached my full potential in this town or something. I've thought about getting a girlfriend again to keep my mind occupied, but nobody around here interests me... The majority of women around here are [censored] that after 5 minutes of talking too Ive already had enough. Is this a phase that everybody goes though? I think maybe that when I go to school this will go away but I couldnt say. I think maybe my mind is just underoccupied and allows me to overthink things. Either way, any suggestions or insights would greatly be appreciated... Thanks.

Hmm, half or your post sounds like you are depressed and hate your life. And the other half sounds like you are just bored. People go through goofy phases... Just wait it out Jared, you'll be fine.

Everybody goes through that to one degree or another.
Some people hit that rut multiple times.

Do your best not to let it get the better of you.
Don't let it be a permanent feeling.
Try to seek out other things to occupy your mind.

Volunteer with different organizations and enrich the lives of others. Help kids, help animals, help elderly, help homeless, etc etc etc. Be an ear for someone who needs company or shoulder for someone to cry on.

Maybe exercise, go for walks, go for drives.
But try to mix things up so you don't make your free time turn into routine and mundane, just like your work/sleep schedule.

Find a hobby. Learn an instrument, take up painting, take up drawing. It doesn't have to be artsy stuff either.
Maybe your house could use some new paint. That's time consuming and can be relaxing as well.

btw, if you feel like doing some reading, have at some of this:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Existentialism

I'm all for meds to get over a hump...the world should be on paxil, what a happy place


I'm not on it, but I used it to level out some anger issues I had in the past. I look at these drugs as a very temporary crutch to get through things...never a permanent solution.

Your boredom sounds like depression to me. I'm not going to tell you that you're probably bored & need something else to occupy your time if you need real help. Talk to your family doctor, that's what they are there for.

I could be totally off base here, I don't know you very well, but that's my take on it.

been through some times in my life exactly like you, man. just bored with the everyday ins and outs. i think everyone experiences that kind of feeling at least once, and most likely multiple times. i usually just try to find something that i can get excited about to occupy my time. i went through a phase where i got into building model cars, then a phase of learning to 3D model, then a phase of collecting stamps, then another for painting. just find something that interests you and do it

now, if ever more serious thoughts enter your head (why am i here? would anyone care if i died, etc...), you should see a doctor. there is a fine line between extreme boredum with life and depression.

~Andrew

I'm almost feeling the same way. Except for the g/f thing.

I get up everyday, go to work, come home and work on my car, go to bed, wake up and do it again the next day. The biggest reason I do this is mostly just because I don't like the people I used to be friends with anymore. I don't know maybe it's just me, but it seems everyone is immature and will not grow up and do something with their life. I see the same people I know getting arrested for fights, DUI, trespassing, etc. At some point I wonder when it will hit them that they aren't in high school anymore and it's time to grow up.

Alot of them did a short time in college and dropped out or they just never left the town. Still working the same [censored] jobs they were in high school, with no plans to progress in life. I think at my age, I'm doing very well and I worked hard to get here.

The thing that depresses me the most is that I can check peoples away messages on AIM, and it's the same bums that I was talking about before, that are going on vacations and trips and constant shopping, and everything else you can think of. Because they have mommy and daddy to pay for it all even though they did nothing to work for it, or they are in debt beyond immagination because they just charge everything with no plans to pay it back.

It really bothers me that bust my ass every single day, work hard at everything I do, make good money but yet I can't do half of those things because I have real world commitments to make, bills to pay, etc. The only time I took off from work to actually do something besides just a random sick day, was when I went to SZ. Other than that, I have done nothing, gone away anywhere or done anything to reward myself for over 2 years now. That's why I started a savings and next year, I'm taking a big trip away from here going on a cruise, and reward my hard work for once.

Maybe I'm becoming an old fart in my young age, but I just have no respect for people who sit around and do nothing with there lives, and just sponge off everyone else.


Sorry for the complaining and it started off wanting to relate more to what you are talking about but I ended up just letting out alot that's bothered me recently. In other words I guess, I feel your pain.

I've had severe depression in my early 20's...it was a b*tch, I can now recognize when I'm slipping, and lately I'm having problems getting myself motivated to do the simplest things, like mowing the grass for instance. I'm willing to go out & do it, I just don't feel like jumping in the truck to go get gas for the tractor, so I blow it off. Or thinking while I'm at work that I'm going to go home & clean the house...and I wind up going to bed instead @ 5:00pm.

My partner is on paxil...I went on vaca w/ her & my mom two weeks ago, 13 hr drive. I took some of her meds because I knew the trip would be a struggle for me w/ those two in the car.

It can become quite debilitating if something doesn't get you out of it, whether it being meds or something that makes you very happy that you enjoy doing.