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I'm not to sure why I should be posting this with all the good post up but you guys seem to decent with advice. Anyway, on to the story...
My best friend(male) and I have been friends for quiet awhile now, since 6th grade. We have had are own ways of approaching women, his being more flirtatious and sneaky, as in not as noticable with others people around. And mine being more obvious, suave, with down to earth attitude.
Now the stituation is that a few weeks ago my best friend(19), my sister(16), her best friend(16), and I went to Q-Zar, a laser tag game, pretty fun actually. Well we had fun went home to sleep off the excercise. Next thing I know, my friend is hanging out at my house a lot more often with my sisters friend over. With that I see him flirting with her. At first it wasn't bad. But then she found out his cell phone number and the text messages started fly in. Most of the time he says they are kinda stupid but this is all he tells me.
My sisters best friend is pretty good looking for her age and she is very mature. She into drama and theater and likes to play video games every once and awhile. A pretty hard find in my books. Also I help with transportation aspect between the movies and her house. Well, today my friend tells that he is going to Barnes and Noble(her favorite bookstore) with her tommorrow and plan out the rest of the day from there. Her parents said it was okay and she said it would be a good idea to run it by me and my sister to see how we would react. She has done this many times with her guy friends, but I can help myself and think what could happen i.e. a serious relationship.
I said it was okay as long as he didn't do anything. I'm not sure what my sister said. Now, I somewhat dislike the fact this is happening. I don't want this to turn into a bigger thing and definately don't want my friend doing anything with my sisters friend.
What should I do? I'm thinking just let it play out and see what happends. My friend is leaving on a month long vaction around the states on sunday, so if he's going to try anything its going to happend tommorrow. I just think its puppy love, where she thinks its awesome to date someone older.
If anyone reads this (and responds with decent advice) thanks for your time.
-KJ
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Jail bait.  Seriously, if you're worried about him "doing something" then you should say something. He's not going to Barnes and Noble to study, that's for damn sure!!!
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Stay out of it. Nothing good can come from you butting in. You'll just end up looking like the bad guy to one of them(maybe both  ). Sometimes people have to learn the hard way so let them learn.
It would be a different story if it were your sister.
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I don't get it. What's the problem?
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If she's jail bait in your state, you have the obligation to be a friend and get/stay involved on this. If she is not (16 is legal sexual consent in some states, even less in a couple of others), then stay out of it like you would if he were dating an 18 year old you didn't approve of.
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Originally posted by Kremithefrog:
I don't get it. What's the problem?
The problem is that I'm not sure if I should let this become a major relationship.
Update: My friend (who keeps me well informed about this situation) said to me that my sister doesn't like how this is turning out(among several reasons) and told her friend that she shouldn't go. Well, as most of you know by now, peer pressure makes up 50% of the decisions we make in HS and he told me that she told him that they can't go out on the date.
But now my friends bumbed out that this is the fourth time in a row that he has been denied. I said life will go on but he still has his reasons and still would like to try hang out with her sometime, one on one.
I just noticed I give out more advice to my friends than I take for my own good. Meh... I'd still like to here more opinions.
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well - I can only say from personal experience - try to date someone your own maturity level (almost always = same age)
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Originally posted by KerryKool:
Originally posted by Kremithefrog:
I don't get it. What's the problem?
The problem is that I'm not sure if I should let this become a major relationship.
That's not really your choice to make. But looks like the 'problem' has been handled.
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Rule of thumb.
Never let ur freinds date ur sisters or your sister's freinds. Period.(or visa versa) It will cause problems between you and your family. Just not worth it.
If it was still happening. I would have told you to inform him that he can't not date her. Because it crosses the line and it will have a bad aftermath.
If he cired i would have told him, sorry man this is family! Stay out of my family's friends!! Go get [censored] somewhere else.
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her parents know about it, so stay out of it.
It's up to them to step in, not you.
When I was 20, I hung out with my boss's 16 year old son (we were both interning at the company).
He was a cool kid and really mature for his age.
Fun to hang with.
I don't deny that I was attracted to him, but I respected the age difference and made sure I kept things at a friendship level, nothing more.
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