EGR is on all the way made sure since i read that could make the car not idle right.
Plus i hear the leak up on the top, and the starting fluid smoothed out the rough idle. It all seems to be fixed now.

Tourige: You had to add a flex pipe into your exhaust correct?
I did as well, to do this i had to modify my cat a lot to make it fit properly, took forever i will post pics later as i am not home and dont have access to upload them.