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I was 19, and my wife was 21 when we got married. We were told that it was impossible for us to have a baby, and for me to finish college at the same time. We just celebrated our 15th anniversary on March 9. It will not be easy, in fact it may be very difficult at times. But, for us, every moment was worth it. God, when did I start to sound like a Hallmark card?????? Good luck,
Scott

different strokes for different folks.
A lot of people's parents got married at the age of 18/19.
Different times back then.
The push to focus only on college straight after high school nowadays is fierce.

Both my husband and I had separate, long term relationships in high school that were both headed toward marriage. College was still a first priority in both those relationships. Turns out both of those relationships crumbled during the college years - mostly due to finding out we weren't matched well with those other people. The distance college creates can put a strain on relationships like that too.

We met each other sometime after those breakups, realized eventually that marriage would be in our future, but still finished college and rode the relationship out a bit before finally gaining some stability, then took the plunge in our mid 20's.
I think that scenario is more common nowadays.

But I also don't see anything wrong with your situation.
If you get married now and stay true to your vows, you'll grow together and you'll make it all work.

college does strange things to relationships.

i would never tell you what is right for you or your girl, but people change...and people get curious.
in a few years she might realize..hey there are a lot of guys out there and a lot of different things i have yet to experience.
you might say the same (well, lots of girls out there)

i would defintly ride it out longer before you plunge into marriage.
i had a few realtionships years ago that lasted long times but eventually realized that marriage was not an option.

i am 30 and engaged, we have been together for a little over 2 years, but i have known her for about 12.
12 years ago i would never have pictured us getting married, but we soon will.


go with your heart..i hope things work out in your favor.

well I think most things have been covered already, to each their own.

My parents and many of my friends parents got married early and they have all said to not do that. I definately feel that waiting until after college is a good idea, most know what can happen at college. I also agree on on the living together part, I think that is pretty common now, it is definately a whole new ball game when you live together

either way good luck

i meant to ask...cuz i dont rememeber reading it in the thread.
do you guys live together now?
if so, how long?

and this may sound silly, but are you comfortable enough to fart around her? her around you?
i ask that in all seriousness.
if you arent comfortable with stuff like that then how are you guys gonna live in the same house and be around each other most of the time?

If you can make your first love work than go for it!

Congrats!

My husband and I met in junior high, dated other people for awhile, got together the summer before senior year and then got married 3 years after high school. I was 21 and he was 22. We are getting ready to celebrate our 7th wedding anniversary. It has been difficult at times, but also some of the best times of my life.

Good Luck!

I was 27 and my wife was 21 when we got married. That was the right time for me. We had both graduated college. I had been engaged a couple of years earlier and called it off when I realized it wasn't going to work. Probably got engaged a little too quickly.

It'll be 8 years this May. That first year was TOUGH! But it has gotten better every year since.

Her parents go married really young (oops bambina on the way), my MIL was still in High School. They are still together 30 years later and are happy.

My parents were about 26 (Dad - I guess my Dad and I like the younger ladies) and 20, and they are still together nearly 40 years later.

I think the trend in society is to wait until mid to late 20's nowdays. College is part of that, so is the ever important "partying" (whatever that means).

How will you guys support yourselves? Do you/ will you both have jobs? Are there any college plans for either of you? There probably should be. I couldn't imagine being married in College. I put myself through and was always busy with work or classes or homework. But some people do it.

Those things being said, do what you feel and think is right. BUT DON'T GET MARRIED JUST BECAUSE EVERYONE IS TELLING YOU NOT TO! ! ! That will never work. Make sure you are BOTH TRULY COMMITTED to this relationship, and realize that marriage is about more than sex and romance. It's hard work, make sure you BOTH realize that and are committed to it.

That's just my advice, take it for what it's worth which...

Good luck.