I had bought my 99 se used, but only got one remote. I managed to get a new in the box remote, but it was incorrect, and no help from the seller.
I went to the dealer, which has a location in a small town where I got my car {I was after a 3/4 ton 4x4 originally}, and a dealership in my city.
I simply stated the salemen sent the wrong one, and the parts guy looked at mine, said stupid f***, arn't they, and got me the correct one, and got a tech to come out and program it in 5 minutes.
Find another dealer, and ask if they can help.
$119 is a crock.