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Hopefully I'll get some serious answers from you guys and not just smart azz remarks. Would you consider dating a "recovering nymph"? She says her life has done a 180, she's been tested and is clean, the past is in the past. Everybody deserves a second chance, right? My blind date went very well, we have now gone out four times and are considering dating and a possible relationship down the road. She just confessed her wild past to me tonight, what a surprise and shock. She cried and wouldn't look at me after telling me her horrible past. We are both attracted to each other and not just sexually. I'm very bothered and hurt by her past, but I think I can get over it and try this with her. Any advice?
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My impression after hearing somebody's past is not to let what happened in the past affect what happens in the future. All that stuff is now behind her so now all you need to focus on being together. Sure, everybody shares their deep dark secrets eventually with their s/o, but that should not change how you feel about her. Should only serve to bring you closer together. That's my take on it, from experience.
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Originally posted by BURNTU2:
..."recovering nymph"... She cried and wouldn't look at me after telling...
whatever problem she has that she turned to promiscuity, she is not yet past it. if you are looking for a meaningful relationship then look elsewhere or what until she has completely grown up, not to imply that she is a child or too young since i can't remember her age. but if you are looking for a good time then have at it.
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My take is DTAEW donâ??t trust anyone especially women! Nymphomania is a made up disease in menâ??s brains to try and get out of paying alimony. But aside from that BS who cares what she did, if you like her go for it. Just keep in mind you can not bring it up during fights. So spell your soul before a relationship starts, so that way neither of you can bring up the past. By the way does her being an â??x-nymphoâ? mean no sex for you?
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Yes, I feel she should have a second chance, but you REALLY need to ask YOURSELF if you can deal with this in the future. If it bothers you now, what about when the "honeymoon" wears off. I'm not saying not to try, jsut make sure you can deal with the feelings that will almost surely arise later, ie. jealously, distrust, or anything else. If you can, I wish you both the best. If you can't, it's best to not begin.
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Originally posted by my csvt:
Originally posted by BURNTU2:
..."recovering nymph"... She cried and wouldn't look at me after telling...
whatever problem she has that she turned to promiscuity, she is not yet past it.
thats a pretty impressive assesment considering you've never met her, and know little about her. 
fwiw, i dated a girl who had a very similar situation, and her cheating was never an issue for me. everybody turns a corner at sometime... it's really up to you (and not a bunch of dudes on the internet) to figure out where she's at. 
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Just remember this, every time one of those 160 ppl see you dating her, they will look at you and think.. ha i banged her... yeah it'd say hit it and quit it, if she wanted a real relationship she shouldnt have been a whore
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Originally posted by Stylin55_oh:
Just remember this, every time one of those 160 ppl see you dating her, they will look at you and think.. ha i banged her... yeah it'd say hit it and quit it, if she wanted a real relationship she shouldnt have been a whore
Who cares what others think? I mean everyone does care but it shouldn't affect your relationship. Also people can't change? So people are the same their whole life? So she had a lot of sex with everyone, does that mean she doesn't now want something serious?
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She bared her soul to you on the first date? Kind of weird. But her former whoreness wouldn't necessarily end the deal for me. In fact it could be a good thing in some ways 
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Well I for one think that her honesty with telling you this early into the relationship is worth something. I mean if your really into her then I say go for it. If it works out great, if not you'll gain some valuable experience and knowledge about women and move on! Everyone has issues and problems, you cant hold what happened in the past against them.
Its ok for this issue to bother you and I think you should be open with her about it, but if shes worth it, you'll find away to get over it! Just beware of any issues that may still arise from whatever reasons she turned into a nymph in the first place. I say give her a chance and if things get wierd you can always bail, thats what dating is about.
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