Contour Enthusiasts Group Archives Forums General Common Interests When were you impressed? (chica related)

I'm trying to think of the last time that I was impressed.

Background information:
I'm not a P-I-M-P and I'm not that cool. I guess I'm a "player," though. I don't get attached and I don't see the point of monogamy at my age. I don't sleep around, but I do get play from several girls at a time. I don't normally care what they do in their off-time or who they do it with because goodness knows I'm not maintaining any semblance of faithfulness. This isn't to say I lead anyone on. There is always an understanding that I'm not exclusive with any of the girls I'm "with," and they don't ask questions and neither do I. None of the girls know anything about anyone else I hang out with and I keep them very separate and away from each other.

But dating is easy. Girls are predictable. Even if they don't like me or they're "out of my league" (LOL), they still always do the same things. You have the lazy ones and the rambunctious ones, the flirty ones and the prudish ones. The easy ones and the ones that think you need to do something to deserve their affection. They're all the same.

Enter my problem. I don't have anything AGAINST monogamy if it's the right girl. I just haven't found anyone who could possibly be considered the "right" girl in a very long time. All the girls I meet are able to be strung along in some fashion and I'm always the one in control. I know what to say and how to compliment and how to kiss ( ) and how to keep them coming back once I get them. I haven't found anyone in a long time to take MY breath away.

That's beginning to bother me. I'm not losing sleep over it, but I find myself wondering when that will change. Keep in mind that I'm twenty-five with a full-time job, money, nice car, culture, etc. and I'm surrounded with younger girls. Even still, some of them MUST be special. I just haven't found any. Even before I came to school, I was never swept off my feet.

Lately, I seem to know EXACTLY what I want in a girl and in anything resembling a relationship: thoughtfulness and spunkiness, decision-making abilities and a desire to look and act nice. Someone who will surprise me with flowers when I don't expect anything.

Maybe I'm setting my sights too high given my current environment. Maybe I'm actually beginning to grow up. I doubt it. I just wonder what happens when no girl you meet is special anymore. Keep looking?


Cliff's Notes: Chicks are predictable and no one really "stands out" in the crowd. Is this all I have to work with??

Yup. Keep looking. Or not. Won't matter. Then one day, when you're not looking, it'll hit you like a freight train, and you'll know she's the one.
Till then, play on! As long as you are up front with everyone, it's a reasonable attitude to have at that age.

Keep looking. Never, I repeat NEVER settle! Take it from a divorced guy who did. It was the best and worst decision I every made in my life. On the upside I have 3 great kids who have made my life better then I ever thought it could be. On the downside I have an ex-wife who thinks she can still run my life, only it's by phone now and I pay her.

Just when you least expect it, WHAM! You're married with children, driving a minivan while picking gummy bears off your elbow.




...Oh wait, that's my life.

I would agree with 99sesport (though I don't take such a religous look on it, but no disrespect at all). Part of the problem is that you are both trying too hard and too frequently (being a man-whore ) and that you are looking in the wrong places, so to speak.

The chicks you are messing with now, who don't care about what you do, aren't the girls that are looking to make a life with someone now, so of course they don't look like anything you want to spend your life with. It's hard to explain this from typing, but I think thats a pretty good explanation.

When you are ready to settle down, those will be the girls you will start to attract, and thats when you will find what you are looking for in a life long partner.