note to everybody selling stuff

[AliasJerk]

first person gets first dibs no matter what.

Im sick of people screwing me out my offers for parts and such, I think as an honest salesman whoever sends the first offer that is what you are looking for; gets dibs no matter what, provided its the correct price and doesnt require you to bend backwards for product.

Example:

over the last 2 weeks I had been shooting PM's back and fourth to a guy on focus sport (he is REALLY slow at getting back with me) about buying some parts from him. We sent about 4 PM's to each other back and fourth asking for pics and condition. So on the 4th of January I offer EXACTLY what he is asking, and even better since he is local I offer to come pick them up, no hassles to him; he was expecting to have to ship them so bonus for him.

Don't hear from him for about a week (I don't like to hassle people so I figured he was busy). After a week I decided it would be a good idea to check up on the offer. he replies the next day saying "Sold them over the weekend... Sorry."

Annoyed. I go back to look at when I made an offer, which was on the 4th, if he sold the wheels this weekend that would mean he sold them long after I PMed an offer for the price he was asking, then I thought to myself "well maybe he just didnt get online for a while or something" so I checked his recent activity which stated he had been actively posting from the date that I made an offer to today's date. So now im pissed, I PMed him back saying; "I made an offer for what you were asking before this weekend, and you were online and posting after I sent you a PM, I had first dibs, come on man stay committed to your buyers."

This kind of stuff just bothers me, especially since I have been looking for these parts for a while, and to find them locally was just such a treat to not have to pay A LOT of cash in shipping to get them to me to sit around for 3-4 months before I can do anything with them. So to any sellers here, make sure to give the first guy the benefit of the doubt, I have done that numerious times, had people offer me way more then I am asking because the sale was pending from another guy that made an offer for what I wanted for the part. I always sell to the first guy, even if I dont make as much money, its about having satisfied buyers.

 

[BrApple]

so you are saying if someone called dibs and then didn't fork over the money for 2 months, or after 2 months decided they didn't want what you where selling that you wouldn't be pissed off? what if in those two months all the other buyers you had got what you where selling else where or change their minds also and now you have no sale, then what?

I see your point, and had that happen to me here but you just have to get over it .... remember money talks

 

[AliasJerk]

so you are saying if someone called dibs and then didn't fork over the money for 2 months, or after 2 months decided they didn't want what you where selling that you wouldn't be pissed off? what if in those two months all the other buyers you had got what you where selling else where or change their minds also and now you have no sale, then what?

I see your point, and had that happen to me here but you just have to get over it .... remember money talks

im saying in reasonable amounts of time, obviously 2 months is a dumb figure to fart around waiting for cash unless the seller agrees to wait 2 months. Kind of took what I was saying out of context, but an understandable statement.

but I had been snappy with this guy and thats what im referring too, back and fourth as quickly as possible while not being stressful. in a week and a half's time I asked for pictures and a description of condition, he replied to which quickly.

Then when I made the offer, when I talked with the money, suddenly he looses interest. I would have picked the parts up THIS weekend had he gotten back to me in a timely manner, but instead he farted around and sold to someone else.

 

[BrApple]

why is two months unreasonable, how many time has someone gotten the line, I get payed next week, someone got sick and I couldn't get the money to send, etc ... and by what you said you would honor the dibs because they called dibs ...

 

[95pgt-t]

the fair thing to do would not to honor any "dib's" if you want it,ask for the pp addy and send payment promptly,if you dont have the money for several days how's it fair to the seller to be expected to hold it for you...unless you put a deposit down.:shrug: i wouldnt hold it as a seller.

 

[BrApple]

the situation I had here was I agreed to buy one of the two remaining items for sale, I turned in that night around 10 ... I get a pm in the morning that was sent after 11 pm saying that I need to pay fast to get it as others wanted it ... well I got that at 5 am and someone sent payment at like 3 am so I loose out ... I mean who the doesn't give someone 24 hours to pay, and I agree with 95pgt-t that payment should be prompt, I would have

but bottom line, suck it up and move on, it might not have been fair but you will find the parts somewhere else along the line ...

 

[AliasJerk]

I am sure I will, obviously there are going to be extenuating circumstances in other cases, but what I am saying if there isn't then something like what I experienced shouldn't be an issue.

Again, waiting 2 months isn't an issue if there is a common agreement between the 2 parties. jeez Brapple, everything I say is an argument to you. its not personal or anything.

the fair thing to do would not to honor any "dib's" if you want it,ask for the pp addy and send payment promptly,if you dont have the money for several days how's it fair to the seller to be expected to hold it for you...unless you put a deposit down.:shrug: i wouldnt hold it as a seller.

I can see where you are coming from, however; im uncomfortable with just asking for a paypal address before the buyer and seller come to an agreement.

 

[95pgt-t]

i should've clarified..i wouldnt send payment w/o a picture or some other "proof",unless it was a long standing member or something,and if they were local,i wouldnt send full payment either,just a deposit. i can understand your annoyed b/c he gave no indication that he wasnt going to sell to you,but i agree w/brapple,just move on and avoid doing buisness w/him in the future.:shrug:

 

[BrApple]

Again, waiting 2 months isn't an issue if there is a common agreement between the 2 parties. jeez Brapple, everything I say is an argument to you. its not personal or anything.

no argument or anything personal here, just making a point to bring of another pov to concider ...

 

[Smalls]

that kind of happened to me with that 3L in the classifieds. an hour after it was posted for sale i sent the seller a pm saying i had cash in hand and could pick it up the next day. i waited 2 days before sending another pm asking what was up. another 2 went by and still nothing. i waited another 2 days until i received a response telling me it was sold.

 

[bagged]

that kind of happened to me with that 3L in the classifieds. an hour after it was posted for sale i sent the seller a pm saying i had cash in hand and could pick it up the next day. i waited 2 days before sending another pm asking what was up. another 2 went by and still nothing. i waited another 2 days until i received a response telling me it was sold.

but it worked out for the better in the end right?

 

[Smalls]

eh. i ended up spending $150 more on an engine with more miles. at least i got it from a trustworthy seller.

edit: i would rather buy parts from you than any other ceg-er on here. i know you only want the best for your car, and you dont bull anyone

 

[svt4stv]

saying that calling "dibs" on something gets you it is laughable at best. there can be many more circumstances to which someone would rather sell it to another interested party.

as stated before, money talks. bullsht walks and has to find the parts elsewhere.

you had the money and were ready to buy it. ok. but you lost out. dont get pissed about it. just move on. next time maybe dont deal with that person. now if you were hammering out a deal or he had accepted your offer, that would be a different story. i had a deal going for Vortech kit going with a member for days...via PMs and phone calls. then he just stops responding to me and i see him still posting. wtf?! oh well, better for me i didnt waste my money on that thing anyways, lol.

if you wanted to buy the bumper im selling and wanted to come to my house and me cash, then stazi PMs saying he wants it, guess what, your "dibs" just got passed up. not that i have anything against selling to you, but i want to choose whom i sell parts to. that's the way it works. i have the right to refuse service to anyone for any reason


and im not leg-humping stazi either. he helped me a GREAT deal in getting my 3L together. i would do the same for many other members on this board who have helped me as well. i wouldnt break a deal for them, but i would put them first in line.

and another thing. just because you call "dibs" first doesnt mean the seller has already been contacted by someone else through other methods.

i see your frustrations dude but freedom to do business with whom and how you want is what our country is all about. freedom to fck over or BE fcked over as well. some times it sucks and some times it rocks :shrug:

 

[RandyCSVT]

DIBS ARE FOR LITTLE KIDS TRADING SNAK PAKS, NOT GROWN ADULTS!!!!!!!!!

I have had way too many people screw me over on this forum by telling me they wanted something and would pay my offering price. I would turn away other people with money, and two days later the original guy says, "sorry I can't buy it, I changed my mind.......my dad won't let me.....I found a better deal."

If you wanted this guy's stuff so bad you should have immediately asked for a paypal address or offered him enough money so that he would not sell them to anyone else.

And don't whine and if somebody comes along offering more money. I will refund you your cash if some other guy comes by and says he will pay me twice what you offered.

The only favor I do anyone is let them make payments, if I am not in a rush to get the money.

 

[RandyCSVT]

I can see where you are coming from, however; im uncomfortable with just asking for a paypal address before the buyer and seller come to an agreement.

if you haven't come to an agreement, there is no sale. How are you gonn aget mad at the seller, when you never fully committed.

 

[svt4stv]

DIBS ARE FOR LITTLE KIDS TRADING SNAK PAKS, NOT GROWN ADULTS!!!!!!!!!

I have had way too many people screw me over on this forum by telling me they wanted something and would pay my offering price. I would turn away other people with money, and two days later the original guy says, "sorry I can't buy it, I changed my mind.......my dad won't let me.....I found a better deal."

If you wanted this guy's stuff so bad you should have immediately asked for a paypal address or offered him enough money so that he would not sell them to anyone else.

And don't whine and if somebody comes along offering more money. I will refund you your cash if some other guy comes by and says he will pay me twice what you offered.

The only favor I do anyone is let them make payments, if I am not in a rush to get the money.

lol. good post. similar to mine with a dose of realism :laugh:

 

[95pgt-t]

lol. good post. similar to mine with a dose of realism :laugh:

yup!! thread can be locked now:laugh:

 

[Pudmunkie]

I never saw any DIBS bull until more of the cougar people started rolling over. It is a prevalent practice over there and is absolutely R E T A R D E D.
How about this for a concept: FIRST ONE WITH MONEY GETS THE ! Aside from holding stuff for friends who you know are good for it.

What else isn't going your way this week alias?

 

[95pgt-t]

common on probetalk and mx6.com too. never recall dibs here back in the day:shrug:

 

[beyondloadedSE]

I say, the first one that gives your ASKING price gets it. We all know that most Contour owners are lowballers. I certainly wont sell to the first person just because they call dibs if the price isn't what Im looking for.